Our triplets are identical....2/2/19

My triplets are identical....blog 2/2/19 In 2004 we decided to take our 3 kids to Hawaii for the first time, hoping to have some family time that soon disappears as they head into lives too busy to accommodate such togetherness. We chuckled as we watched our son settle in between his sisters on the plane, his eyes big and his hands gripping the the armrests as a smile formed in the corners of his mouth. He is quiet, loves an adventure and takes it all in with silent awe. Road trips of any kind send him packing a bag and now this adventure promised to be greater than any before. The girls 4 1/2 years apart sandwich their brother in age, he is the mediator often tempering their more volatile temperaments. They are quick to laughter, always chattering and sometimes bickering until we travel and they both drop off into carsick slumber leaving their brother the silent world he so enjoys. We made our destination and spent the next glorious week soaking up sunshine, exploring the island and sea around us. We made many many fabulous memories and 15 years later still look back and wish we were there. When it was time to depart we were waiting in a long line of travelers while our kiddos lounged on a ledge nearby. Suddenly a man walks up and says “my wife and I are curious, are they triplets or a set of twins and a single”? I stare at him in confusion and answer “our children are all singles”. To which he answered, “ are you sure”? I still laugh to this day picturing his face as I assured him I had indeed given birth at three very separate times. He walked away and I could see he and his wife looking none convinced by my answer. Weeks after our dream trip my fearsome 3 would go through the roller coaster of my cancers and treatments. Together as always they faced it head on and got each other through the tough spots. Taking turns being the strong one, always circling back to make sure they had the pack together and safe. They are what everyone wishes they had in a sibling and I am so glad they have each other. The years continued to go by and it was determined I carry a cancer causing gene with a 50% chance of passing it to my kids. We dreaded the day they would take this test to see which if any would dodge this bullet. They took the test out of birth order this time, which was very strange to me as we always do everything in order! Our eldest took her test first and not only discovered the gene was present but battled her first cancer as well. Our youngest daughter was next and she too carries the mutation and was encouraged to start and finish her family quickly so she could move to the next step of safe guarding her health. Our son was last and quickly approaching the latest possible age the doctors had set for the testing. We all held our breath as we awaited the results, all feeling that he too would have it but dreaming that maybe, just maybe we could rejoice in a negative! Well sir, they are indeed triplets and our triplets are identical. They may not share the same birth date but they all share one nasty genetic mutation. We cried our tears, lashed out at the injustice and set the course for life as usual with a few more procedures, tests and days we feel emotion sprinkled in. Empowered by knowledge I did not have prior to cancer, these kids of mine can go at this with weapons of interception and destruction. With strength, tenacious spirits and zest for life’s adventures my fearsome 3 will continue to live each day like it’s the best day of their lives.
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The good news is they know and can be prepared for what may come down the road. I would want to know, I guess some don't but I think it is smart to take the test. Life in uncertain in many ways, I am one to be prepared if I can be. Your triplets seem like a delight, and it is so wonderful that they have each other. You have such a beautiful family, you are blessed.
I am glad that now we have the opportunity to get this testing. With my genetic mutation it is recommended to start colonoscopies at the age of 40. I had mine the first one at 45 when I was already stage 4.
Not the results any of you were praying for, but information that allows us to be prepared for what may lie ahead is better than not having it at all. I hope and pray that by the grace of God, your "triplets" are spared from this. I remember meeting your son--what a nice young man. I know your girls are just as sweet! Sending prayers for you all.
Lol, it seems like the gentleman still did not believe you had three separate births. I'm sorry your children inherited the gene but it's good that they know so they can be vigilant. Is it Lynch? I know that's not the only genetic link for colon ca but it's the usual. Seems like you've raised them with a good set of ethics and reason, I think they'll be ok.🙏🏻👍🏻
Yes Lynch, MLH1 and no I do not think the man and his wife believed me lol.
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Vital Info


August 29, 2009


Cancer Info

Colon and Rectal Cancer

September 28, 2004

Stage 3C

4.1 - 5.0 cm


That affects more than just me.

That I have more strength than I ever imagined.

left with mild neuropothy, balance and memory issues

Cedar Sinai in Beverly Hills California


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Since the first and 1 recurrence I have lived no evidence of disease


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